I feel you bro, ... I got no idea what you are talking about (I live in my cave and didn't follow up what was going on) but it makes me sad just to read what you posted.
Live simple, people. Peacefuly. I'm not sure that, whatever actually happened, that it was worth that fuss: life is short. Enjoy it.
I'm not talking about Yolo but I'm sure we'd be better off without fighting amongst, who shouls be considered as, our own.
We can make beautiful things together. But, yeah, if we really can't stand each other then the least we could try would be to ignore each other - that's pretty simple on internet! "Destroying" each other is conter-productive.
Lastly, sure it is easy to talk about it like that when not involved but ain't it the point? Personally I think we need "those people that are outside of it" 's opinions to help us see clearer. It is hard to see clear when we got our noses right in it.
Edit: Also, god knows how relationships and communication can be a hell of a tough situation. Take it easy on yourselves, people. It ain't always simple. Be strong, be happy, RELAX, breath.